Can somebody please tell me how to teach my eldest child that stealing things and lying about it is not cool? That calling me names is not cool? That acting tough and mouthy is not cool? She is apparently not yet mature enough to realize that her actions and words can create negative or positive results for not only herself but everyone around her. She wants to be left alone (by me) but insists on using my things and sneaking around, thus inviting me into her troubles.
Of course, I blame her father who lives to buy her things and doens't like to discipline her at all who manipulates her into feeling sorry for him. When she is with him she acts sweet and passive and when she is with me she is herself-loud, relaxed and smelly. In my defence I treat both of my children with respect, am open with them and have a relaxed attitude towards many things. I do expect them to do what I ask when I ask it (homework, tidying up, getting outside to play) but am inclusive and fair.
I have people I know whose kids are rotten and it's almost always the parents fault. What have I done wrong and how can I fix it.?
p.s. she is almost certainly PMS'ing....
2 comments:
My middle daughter was the same, and her two parents lived in the same house and had the same rules. It was three years of hell, but she did come out of it. Good luck.
just keep shoving good books in her direction.
and you, get outside and work the frustration off, it always helps a bit.
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