I've got a bee in my bonnet. One of my siblings is constantly trying to control everything-for those with siblings, yes it is the eldest, what is up with that-to the point where she will send out a million emails outling the rules around gift giving; how much to spend, whom to buy for, what age is the cut -off for gifts (we have plenty of teenagers in the family and apparently they are to be excluded from Christmas). It goes on and on. She wants to know and/or establish rules for gift giving at birthdays. I sent her a very polite message suggesting that she should do what she wants to do, what she feels is right and everyone else will do the same-as is their right. I just know that there's going to be a shit storm over it. Usually I just stay out of it and do what I want to do anyway but honestly, birthdays? Get a fucking hobby or some therapy-that will be my gift to you, therapy.
So now I am wondering why do I let her get to me? Is it just my natural resistance to being controlled or is it something deeper? I do not mind faimilies coming together to set reasonable limits over the insanity of Christmas gift-giving. I also wonder if it's because I do not have alot of money to buy many gifts for people-especially people with whom I am not particulalry close or attached to. But then again I think if I did have tons of cash I would just go ahead and do what I wanted to do anyway. It just pisses me off that someone else thiks they have the right to dictate my values to me. And that's what it is. I can't stand allowing the holidays to become some sort of soul sucking set of negotiations over who gets what in the name of "fairness".
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